I loved this gorgeously wise post by WA début author, Sharron Booth. I know writers, and readers, will love it too, as we all resonate with the struggles of writing a book and getting published. It’s never straightforward and Sharron’s post, with its truth and honesty and wisdom, will give writers hope and encouragement to keep going.
‘To call something a dream and then commit yourself to running after it is to condemn writing (or whatever your heart-lurching thing is) to the realm of the not-real and the permanently out of reach. It also suggests some perfect world awaits elsewhere, if only you can grasp your dream’s coat-tails.’
Sharron Booth was born in Yorkshire, England and has lived most of her life in Perth, Western Australia. She worked as a professional writer for many years and has a PhD in Creative Writing. Her first novel, The Silence of Water, was shortlisted for the 2020 City of Fremantle Hungerford Award and was published by Fremantle Press in May 2022.
You can find Sharron on her website, Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn, and you can buy a copy of her book, The Silence of Water, from Fremantle Press and all good bookstores.
The Myth of ‘Follow Your Dream’
One rainy July evening in the mid-90s I sat in a grey room in Edith Cowan University’s Mt Lawley campus: the first class of my writing degree. I’m sure I felt self-conscious in my corporate clothes – I’d rushed to class from work.
While some of the details have gone the way of my black double-breasted maxi coat, the important bits are clear. I was in that classroom because I’d seen Tim Winton on the news being interviewed in front of floor-to-ceiling bookshelves. Watching him, I experienced what I can only describe as a painful lurching of the heart.
See that? a voice seemed to be saying. Do that.
You again, I probably said, but this was the first time I didn’t press delete-and-block on my subconscious.
I’ve been reflecting on that moment, and a few others like it, since the publication of my first novel, The Silence of Water. Readers have asked me loads of thoughtful questions about the book: about Western Australia’s convicts, our silenced colonial women, and how I grappled with writing the character of a troubled, secretive man.
But the most common question I’ve been asked is: Did you always know you wanted to be a writer?
Like many authors, from an early age I was sure I wanted to write. (Let’s ignore my first ambition to be Suzi Quatro). I made up stories about people I saw at the shops. My school friends turned up as characters in assignments. Mum and Dad bought me a second-hand Olympia manual portable typewriter and I started tapping out blue-inked mini-books.
Soon enough, the world weighed in. ‘You’re too smart for the humanities,’ said someone senior at my high school.
‘You want to be a writer? Seriously? You’re either arrogant or stupid,’ chorused western capitalism.
I heat-shrank my ambition into something that would pay and landed my first job in advertising. It included an electric typewriter and I tapped out ads for things nobody needed. I practised writing blockbuster romances on company time and everyone thought I was busy.
One day on the way back from lunch I felt a heavy pain in my chest. I sat down at a bus-stop, doubled over, until it passed. As I got my breath back, I stared down Hay Street at the city and it happened.
What are you doing? Something hissed into my ear, into my very being. What are you doing? Get out!
Did I listen? Of course not. It would be a few more years until the Tim Winton-bookshelves incident.
A lurching of the heart. In my experience, they happen when I need a gigantic course correction but the captain’s on the lido deck in a conga line instead of up front steering the ship.
Let’s talk about “following your dream”. To call something a dream and then commit yourself to running after it is to condemn writing (or whatever your heart-lurching thing is) to the realm of the not-real and the permanently out of reach. It also suggests some perfect world awaits elsewhere, if only you can grasp your dream’s coat-tails.
I was fortunate to be awarded a scholarship to write The Silence of Water as part of my PhD. A dream come true, right?
I loved the archival research, but when it came to the writing, I froze. I hadn’t a clue how to write something as big as a novel, least of all one with multiple points of view and timelines, and themes of exile, family secrets and violence.
When I wrote, all the voices of all the haters I’d ever known started up in my head: my old boss from my last copywriting job who used to leave notes on my work telling me how bad it was, and the author who called my first major piece, to my face, a ‘terrible waste of paper.’
The slightest criticism from my PhD supervisor confirmed I was a failure and I’d stop writing for weeks. (I’d ask you not to tell her but I’m guessing she knew.)
No wonder I was tired all the time. No wonder I hated myself as my writing carried the burden of my self-worth.
And no wonder I made slow progress on my novel.
Then my life fell apart. My PhD scholarship ran out, I needed a job, my relationship ended and I had some health issues. Nothing to do all day but be alone with my unfinished novel, which by now I loathed.
Emotionally, I was barely existing. I got through by setting myself a word count. I told myself that a good day would be 500 words. Anything more, a bonus. But I’d be happy with 250. If I only did 100, that would be ok, and 50 – good enough. I didn’t have the headspace to care about the quality. I felt that that if I could write 50 words a day, I’d have a small amount of control over my life.
Years later, I understood what I’d learned. I’d had no self-belief but, inadvertently, I’d made a structure that worked. After I gave up on my novel and later decided to finish it I knew I would eventually get to the end, regardless of whether or not it was any good.
That’s the rather unglamorous way I ‘followed my dream’. No training montage, no punching the air, no power-ballad soundtrack. It’s also how I’m writing my second novel: 500 words on a good day, 50 good enough, regardless of the emotional forecast.
I share this for anyone who might be sitting at a bus-stop waiting for the feeling to pass. Forget following your dream. Learn how your instincts talk to you, and listen. Writing could well become a reassuringly ordinary and grounding part of your messy, imperfect, very human life.
BOOK GIVEAWAY
I’m thrilled to offer a copy of Sharron’s book, The Silence of Water, to giveaway.
To enter, simply comment on this blog or any of my social media posts about Sharron’s novel.
The winner will be drawn 12pm (WST) this Thursday, 21st July, and will be chosen randomly.
International entries are welcome, but we can only post to an Australian address.
Good luck!
ADDENDUM 21.7.22
The winner of the book giveaway is @annafursland_writer2. Congratulations, Annie!
Thank you Louise for sharing Sharron’s story. We hear this rhetoric all the time – follow your dreams – but what we really hear is that you do that in your own time dear. The head tells us that of course you need to keep doing all the things that you ‘ought’ to be doing. Like paid work, unpaid work, obligations to family, friends, society. But where does that obligation to our own inner dreamer get left? Rattling around in our hearts, waiting for that perfect day. As Sharron so accurately said, “Forget following your dream. Learn how your instincts talk to you, and listen.” Well, I sat up and listened today .. and its all thanks to you both for your generosity of sharing.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment, Kirsa. You are so right, in that we’re meant to follow our dreams after we’ve helped everyone else achieve theirs. I love that you sat up and listened today – good luck and let me know how you go! 🙂
Hi Kirsa, I’m so glad this post resonated! It sure can be a battle sometimes to balance everyone else’s needs with our own inner yearnings.
Terrific post, Sharron (and Louise). Very real, and no frills. The ubiquity of setbacks and disappointment can be crippling and is still often overlooked, particularly in regards to writing. Congratulations on making it through at all, let alone with the novel you produced and the success you’ve found.
Lovely to hear from you, Glen! Setbacks and disappointments in writing and publishing are ubiquitous, as you say. It’s a wonder any of us have any ego left, let alone keep striving. Yet, we do, which speaks to our resilience. Good on us! 🙂
Thank you Glen! I learned so much from the experience, I wouldn’t change anything.
I’m half-way through The Silence of Water, and loving it. No sense of struggle in the final story, Sharron. Thank you for sharing your journey and for staying the course. And thanks, Louise for the blog.
Wow! So glad you’re enjoying it, Maureen! Thanks for reading. 🙂
I’m really glad you’re enjoying it, Maureen 🙂 Let me know what you think once you’ve reached the end of the story!
Thanks Louise and Sharron. Great to hear of grit and determination laid out plainly and not idealised as some magical passion. Both Tim Winton and Stephen King have a ton of books to their names because they started their writing careers as young men and that’s two reasons (‘young’ and ‘men’, is it awful of me to say that?). I didn’t get my first book published until I was 64. No dreaming was involved.
Oh wow, that’s a fantastic achievement and hopefully there will be many more to come 🙂 I agree that women typically face more pressure to put others’ needs before their own, and pursuing our own goals, whatever they may be, can often take a back seat.
I agree and, no, it’s not awful to say what you know to be true. It’s so much harder for females even now to have a career in any field – don’t get me started! Here’s to many more books from you, Meryl! 🙂
Meryl you give me hope. Thank you too for posting your story. 64 is a great number and maybe i can make it too. I’ve written the manuscript, polished it, edited it, polished it again, had some feedback from several people and i’ve used their comments for reviisions, but now what? There’s so much more to all of this as Sharron and Louise explain so well.
Keep going, Rowena! 🙂
Loved your words of wisdom, Sharron. thank you, Louise for sharing. I can’t wait to read ‘The silence of Water’. What a beautiful title.
Glad you enjoyed reading this, Christine! I love the title, too 🙂
Thank you Sharron and Louise for being truthful about your experience, thoughts and feelings. Wanting to write, writing, finishing a manuscript, and then getting published are a few of the many steps you have both climbed. Well done. Thank you for giving little credence to the nay-sayers who are some of plenty of obstacles in between those steps. I’m proud of you for keeping going and navigating that steep staircase.
What a beautiful comment, Rowena! There are so many obstacles to overcome in the pursuit of a writing career, including the actual writing of a manuscript! Keep going 🙂